Low Self Esteem - Women Can Avoid This Too!

If you are one of the many low self esteem women walking around in our society today, you are probably looking for ways to change the negative feelings that you have about yourself.

Here are some of the several symptoms of low self esteem women go through - depression, overeating, undereating and anxiety. And we often mistakenly follow our instincts, trying to get rid of the symptoms but not the problem itself. Finding true happiness in life can be achieved not with a Dr. Feel Good quick-fix solution but by actually finding ways to improve a rocky self esteem.

Here are three simple but effective steps that you can take to change your attitude to yourself. You can dynamically transform your life by following these suggestions.

Learn how to stand up for yourself

It is a common occurrence that in an attempt to justify low self esteem women (and sometimes men) would allow themselves to be bullied around by their partners, either physically or emotionally. For example, a woman may hook up with a man who is alcoholic, repeatedly unfaithful, violent or just puts her down all the time.

Giving advice in this scenario can be very plain and obvious - dump that man for good! When it's happening in your own life, it's harder to do what you know is right, but the bottom line is that if you want to be happy, you have to stop accepting being treated this way.

This isn't baseball - the abusive partner needs just one behavioral warning - not three, two, or some other number of warnings. If that doesn't work, you may decide to get out of the situation.

Say exactly what's on your mind

Many people who have low esteem feel that they are not entitled to have an opinion, because what they think and feel has no value. If a person makes a comment you don't agree with, let him or her know. There is no need to get angry or make a long speech: just say, "I don't agree."

Even if you just express your dissent without explaining, you'll realize it's not the end of the world. Often times, nothing happens at all. There may be people who might ask for an explanation. If that happens, limit yourself to saying what you think or feel about the question without turning it into a battle about who is right. People can have different opinions without one of them having to be right and the other wrong.

Believe people when they give you a compliment

Not too many people with low self esteem believe in compliments - they would usually give the person giving the compliment a quick brush-off. This could lead you to assume the worst in people, maybe thinking they have weird tastes or something, or maybe they're trying to wheedle something or some information out of you by means of flattery.

Your reaction will probably be to put yourself down in some way. This puts them down too, because you are basically telling them they are wrong to like whatever it was that they just complimented you on.

Maybe a very basic "thank you" would do the trick for you. This is a nice, inoffensive way of acknowledging the compliment. These people have an opinion, and you respect it. You might also come to believe it: and then you will no longer have to rank yourself among the many thousands or millions of low self esteem women.


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